"I find myself wondering again and again what it would be like actually to live every moment of one's life with an awareness of God..." D. Allen
March 9, 2012
Changes that Heal: Henry Townsend
Shared from Henry Cloud's latest FB status update. It it weren't so long, I need it embroidered on my pillow for daily reading. #1 is really applicable in my life right now. How about you?
In my book "Changes
That Heal," I talked about a developmental path that we all travel to
get to maturity. It involves four steps:
1) The ability to get
connected 2) The ability to have boundaries 3) The ability to put "good
and bad" together 4) The ability to be an adult.
TIme for a
little check up for you. Ask yourself the following questions in the
four areas today: ... 1. How connected do I feel to some
significant people in my life? If not, what can I do to increase my
connection? Reach out? Join? Get more proactive? Or is it more
overcoming internal fear or resistance? What is my next growth step?
2. How in control of my own life do I feel? Who does it feel is
controlling me? Why am I not saying no? Where is my next growth step in
creating a healthy limit with someone?
3. What idealized image
am I suffering under, unable to accept the good and the bad? Is it with
myself or with others? Or both? Where am I attacking myself for not
being "good enough" and feel as if I am "all bad" for my mistakes or
imperfections? Where am I doing that to someone else? What steps do I
need to take towards acceptance of both the good and the bad and dealing
4. How much of an equal adult do I feel like I am
with others? Do I feel "one down" some or the time? Why? What do I need
to do to express my adulthood? Or, am I assuming the parent role with
some other adult and not requiring adulthood from them as well as trying
to dominate them? Where do I need to let them be an equal?
Good questions to ask.....for more about this see "Changes That Heal."